I SEE YOUR TRUE COLORS...THAT'S WHY I LOVE YOU...

When someone shows you that they're GREEN...do not be surprised when they don't turn out to be BLUE...

One of my favorite quotes is "when someone shows you who they are, believe them".  I like it so much because it is truth put so simply.  But as humans we are so quick to complicate what is really quite simple...We act so surprised when the people in our lives--both the major players and the supporting cast--do exactly as they've always (or at least mostly) done.  We allow ourselves the misery of shock and disgust when a liar lies.  We allow ourselves to waste time venting about the gossip who told our business.  And we allow our feelings to be hurt by the schoolyard bully who once again pretended to like us for a minute, only to pull our underwear up our asses and throw us in the trashcan the minute we let our guard down.

Liars lie.

Gossips tell your business....my business...and their own.

And bullies play possum until they smell an ounce of your weakness, fear, or vulnerability, and then they pounce.

But it's not that we need these life lessons--we all know these things.  In fact, many of us have taught children these things...

No, it's not about the knowing, it's about the remembering...and dammit if that part doesn't get us EVERY SINGLE TIME...

gots

ta

be 

more 

careful....

But it's not just the "bad" qualities that this applies to, it's also the good.  If someone shows you time and time again that they're honest, trust them.  Mind you, I said SHOWS you, not TELLS you...When someone shows you that no matter how much time or space is allowed to fill the gaps between you, they have your back ride or die...believe them.  

I wrote a blog very similar to this a long time ago, when this lesson first hit me.  Apparently it didn't hit me hard enough...apparently i needed to be knocked the hell out.  

And I was. And now I have truly learned this lesson...in a way that I'll never forget it again.  Whatever the specific traits in question, people WILL show themselves...you've just got to be paying attention.  They will show themselves many times...and when they show you time and time again that they are "green", you are doing NO ONE any favors by continuing to expect them to be "blue". For you, you're going to be perpetually disappointed.  For them, they're never going to feel truly loved or valued for just who they are--even if who they are (that trait in particular) is fucked up... if you're telling them you love them, they're expecting you to love the green in them...

not the green...

minus the  yellows...

to make them blue.

I am a firm believer that people evolve, they do not change.

Time, growth, maturity, and maybe even you,  may help them come around to being lime, neon, forest, pine, shamrock, emerald, or jade...but they will simply never be blue.

If blue is what you want, blue is out there...

probably waiting on someone who will love them for their blue and not expect them to be red...

blue is out there...

i am a believer. and i love the color blue.